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How To Overcome Self-Limiting Beliefs



How To Overcome Self-Limiting Beliefs

What Stops You From Chasing Your dreams?

Sometimes we don’t realize how much our mind has influenced the way we are living our life. It makes us believe in something that often doesn’t serve us. It makes us believe in our limitations more than our abilities to achieve.

And this has got to stop if we really want to achieve our wildest, biggest dreams and goals.

What Are Self-Limiting Beliefs?

Self-limiting beliefs are belief systems that we hold inside our mind tightly. These beliefs are usually limiting, negative and hindering our growth. We adopt these self-limiting beliefs as a child and it’s hard to control/eliminate them. But we have to do that if we want to manifest our deepest desires.

These beliefs could appear in many forms, such as:

I can’t(example: I can’t talk to strangers calmly, I have social anxiety!).

I must not(example: I must not wear clothes that are fun for me, people will look at me like I’m a freak).

I don’t have(example: I don’t have enough time to start working on my dreams now!).

Other people…(example: Girls hate me, that’s just what they do. Maybe because I’m awkward).


The sad thing is, when you look at these beliefs closely, none of them are actually true.

Everything is the result of your past and you just didn’t acknowledge it. Holding these beliefs is not a good decision because it will limit you and your interactions in general.

If you really want to manifest your deepest desires, you have to challenge these limiting beliefs that hinder yourself from your growth. Because in order to really cultivate the life we really want, we have to start clean and do whatever we can to make sure it will all come true (Hey, you can’t be a famous singer if you think you have stage fright!).

How To Overcome Your Self-Limiting Beliefs

There are steps that you can take to overcome your limiting beliefs and start clean with full empowerment. These steps will help you eliminate all of your previous limiting beliefs and help you tackle life with new confidence and understanding.

1. Acknowledge Your Self-Limiting Beliefs

The first step is to be totally honest with yourself. What limiting beliefs do you think you have? Take a piece of paper and write down the self-limiting beliefs that you know are hindering your personal growth. These beliefs could include anything from fear, excuses, experience, etc.

For example:

I can’t talk in front of large audiences.

I can’t smile/interact with strangers.

I can’t open my heart and really love someone.


2. Find The Core Reasons For Those Beliefs

After you list all of those self-limiting beliefs that you have, try to understand the reasons for why you have those beliefs. These reasons could be various, but usually, it’s because of your childhood experience/societal programming.

For example:

I can’t open my heart and really love someone because I’ve been deeply hurt in the past.

I can’t talk in front of large audiences because those audiences are judging me and my every move.

I can’t smile/interact with strangers because it’s creepy. My parents told me so.

3. Understand That Those Beliefs Are Simply Not True

If we take a look at the examples above, we will find out that most of those beliefs are unjustified. Usually, these beliefs appear because you have one (or more) bad experience regarding these beliefs, and automatically your brain shuts down to the possibility of you doing it. But this can be changed simply by shifting our mindset to the more empowering one. Understand that many of these beliefs are not true, and the foundation of these beliefs are very subjective.

4. Arm Yourself With New, Empowering Beliefs

The next step to take after acknowledging that those beliefs you held are simply not true, is to form new beliefs. Use this time of epiphany to form new beliefs that serve you. Choose your new beliefs carefully, because these new beliefs will manifest into your life.

After changing all of those limiting beliefs with new, empowering, and positive ones, start acting as if. Start acting like you are the new person that has all of these positive beliefs inside of them. It might be hard to change (It might take weeks or months), but with proper dedication, you will get there.

Let’s take an example:

For your previous self-limiting beliefs “I can’t speak in front of large audiences”, change them to “I am comfortable speaking in front of large audiences & I have an excellent public speaking ability”. After doing this, proactively act as if you are comfortable speaking in front of large audiences. You could do this after you learn many tips on being an excellent public speaker, join a public speaking community, and seek challenges to prove your new-found beliefs.

5. Gather Evidence While Challenging Your New Found Beliefs

After doing all of above steps, the next thing you can do is seek evidence of your new-found beliefs. You will find that the more you spend time believing and acting like ‘the new you’, the more it becomes true in your reality.

You can finally say; Goodbye self-limiting beliefs! Now you are empowered and ready to take the next steps towards manifesting your deepest desire & living the life of your dreams!


Shella is a 24-year-old freelance writer who is passionate about helping people finding their own authenticity through spirituality and entrepreneurship. Take a look at her blog ( and medium page! You can also say hi to her on Instagram.

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