Jo Usmar has written an excellent book titled This Book Will Make You Fearless. In this book, you will learn how to overcome your fears and change your life. We all feel frightened sometimes – it’s totally natural – but if fear is holding you back, making you feel stuck in a rut and hindering your ambitions, it’s time to make changes. Jo Usmar provides a concise, straightforward guide to battling your fears. There are strategies, tools and relatable examples throughout that offer simple and effective ways to feel brave, independent and confident. Pushing through your fear will allow you to take back control of your life so you can make changes, accept that you have choices and recognise that you absolutely can cope with whatever life throws at you. Anxiety is one of the biggest mental health challenges of our times. Rather than a downbeat ‘coping with’ book, this is an inspiring modern take on ‘feel the fear and do it anyway’. Chapters include: CBT-based techniques, dealing with physical anxiety, getting to the root cause of your fear, negotiating obstacles, stopping self-sabotage, building confidence, combatting guilt and shame, feeling more powerful, breaking negative patterns. Below are a few paragraphs which will give you a brief insight into what the book is about. There is so much beneficial information in this book, it will transform your mind and your life by teaching you how to become fearless.
“Fear is a primitive emotion. It’s our inbuilt alarm system, flagging up danger and triggering the physical ‘fight or flight’ response – so we can either fight the threat or run from it, screaming at the top of our lungs. On a very basic level, fear can be categorised into two types: Conditioned fear: A fear that is ‘learned’, usually by something ‘harmless’ being repeatedly associated with something scary, such as visiting the dentist reminding one of experiencing pain and discomfort. These connections can come from your own memories, stories you’ve heard, novels you’ve read, television programmes you’ve watched or even news reports – pretty much anything that sticks in your mind and makes an impression on you. Unconditioned fear: A fear that is wholly instinctual; an evolutionary survival mechanism. For example, the fear you feel when standing on the edge of a crumbly cliff or when facing a furious rhinoceros.”
“How much you fear and what you fear is totally unique to you. You were born with certain traits. How those traits shift and change as you grow and experience life is totally dependent on what happens to you and how you manage it. Our impressions about ourselves, others and the world are formed in childhood. Kids generally accept what they are told and what they are shown to be ‘truths’ by their parents and teachers because they have no basis for comparison. Their ideas surrounding self-worth, judgement, acceptability, achievement and normality are established very early on and these ideas turn into staunchly held beliefs as they grow up.”
“Cross-examine your so-called factual thoughts. Look for evidence to disprove thoughts. Ask yourself: Have I ever attempted something similar before? If so, how did it go? Can I learn anything from how that played out to help me now? Try to be fair on yourself, it’s highly unlikely you’re being fair about your ability to cope, right? Thoughts aren’t fact. Your behaviour, body and thoughts are all intervention points – change one and it’ll change the others for the better. Concentrate all your attention on something non-threatening.”
“An old Cherokee chief was teaching his grandson about life. A fight is going on inside me, he said to the boy. It is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One is evil – he is anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, self-doubt, and ego. The other is good – he is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith. This same fight is going on inside you – and inside every other person, too. The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather, Which wolf will win? The old chief simply replied, The one you feed.”
“Learn how to fail like a pro. You need to redefine how you think about the very word ‘failure’. The word itself is emotionally provocative, conjuring up images of people pointing and laughing at you as you prepare to step blindly off a cliff. No one wants to be that guy so you self-sabotage, avoid things or give up after the first knock-back. All of which only perpetuates your belief that you can’t cope. Here’s news: failure is a good thing. Failure leads to success – every time you cock something up, you learn how not to do it, which is an integral lesson on the road to achievement. It’s just as Edison said: ‘I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work’.
“Stop thinking of things as ‘risks’. Ban the words ‘risk’ or ‘risky’ from your vocabulary. They suggest the possibility of danger (usually in the form of failure) which immediately makes you want to find reasons not to do whatever it is you’re considering doing. Use the words ‘opportunity’ or ‘chance’ instead. So, ‘Do I want to take this opportunity?’ rather than, ‘Do I want to risk this?’ This simple change will make you look at the situation more positively.”
“Visualize your life as you want it. Visualization can take a bit of getting used to, but it absolutely works. It’s something actors and athletes have done for decades to get them in the right mindset for upcoming performances and competitions. Essentially, you imagine yourself succeeding: the best-case scenario. In visualizing how to achieve something, you convince your sceptical brain (your inner critic) that it’s possible. We always believe our negative imaginings of things going wrong, yet we rarely picture ourselves winning. And, with any visualizations vivid enough, you experience the emotion you would if the event actually played out that way. So, if you imagine yourself looking like a complete prat in front of people, you’ll feel anxious and humiliated and probably even experience the physical effects: your stomach dipping and your cheeks turning brick-red. The same goes for positive visualizations. If you picture something brilliant happening, you’ll experience feelings of pride, happiness and courage. this will motivate you to make it happen – to work around obstacles to push through fear to see it through because you’ve already seen it’s possible in your head. Makes sense right? So give it a go.”
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James Allen’s The Path To Prosperity
James Allen has written an excellent book titled The Path To Prosperity. This scarce antiquarian book is a facsimile reprint of the original. Due to its age, it may contain imperfections such as marks, notations, marginalia and flawed pages. Because we believe this work is culturally important, we have made it available as part of our commitment for protecting, preserving, and promoting the world’s literature in affordable, high quality, modern editions that are true to the original work.
“When night folds the world in its black impenetrable mantle, no matter how dense the darkness, it covers but the small space of half our little planet, while the whole universe is ablaze with living light, and every soul knows that it will awake in the light in the morning. Know, then, that when the dark night of sorrow, pain, or misfortune settles down upon your soul, and you stumble along with weary and uncertain steps, that you are merely intercepting your own personal desires between yourself and the boundless light of joy and bliss, and the dark shadow that covers you is cast by none and nothing but yourself. And just as the darkness without is but a negative shadow, an unreality which comes from nowhere, goes to nowhere, and has no abiding dwelling place, so the darkness within is equally a negative shadow passing over the evolving and Lightborn soul.”
“The cause of all power, as of all weakness, is within; the secret of all happiness as of all misery is likewise within. There is no progress apart from unfoldment within, and no sure foothold of prosperity or peace except by orderly advancement in knowledge. You say you are chained by circumstances; you cry out for better opportunities, for a wider scope, for improved physical conditions, and perhaps you inwardly curse the fate that binds you hand and foot. It is for you that I write; it is to you that I speak. Listen, and let my words bum themselves into your heart, for that which I say to you is truth: You may bring about that improved condition in your outward life which you desire, if you will unswervingly resolve to improve your inner life. I know this pathway looks barren at its commencement (truth always does, it is only error and delusion which are at first inviting and fascinating,) but if you undertake to walk it; if you perseveringly discipline your mind, eradicating your weaknesses, and allowing your soul-forces and spiritual powers to unfold themselves, you will be astonished at the magical changes which will be brought about in your outward life.”
“Your true wealth is your stock of virtue, and your true power the uses to which you put it. Rectify your heart, and you will rectify your life. Lust, hatred, anger, vanity, pride, covetousness, self-indulgence, self-seeking, obstinacy,- all these are poverty and weakness; whereas love. purity, gentleness, meekness, compassion, generosity, self-forgetfulness, and self-renunciation,- all these are wealth and power.”
“Every thought you think is a force sent out, and in accordance with its nature and intensity will it go out to seek a lodgment in minds receptive to it. and will react upon yourself for good or evil. There is ceaseless reciprocity between mind and mind, and a continual interchange of thought-forces. Selfish and disturbing thoughts are so many malignant and destructive forces, messengers of evil, sent out to stimulate and augment the evil in other minds, which in turn send them back upon you with added power. While thoughts that are calm, pure, and unselfish are so many angelic messengers sent out into the world with health, healing, and blessedness upon their wings, counteracting the evil forces; pouring the oil of joy upon the troubled waters of anxiety and sorrow, and restoring to broken hearts their heritage of immortality.”
“Where there is sterling faith and uncompromising purity there is health, there is success, there is power. In such a one, disease, failure, and disgust can find no lodgment, for there is nothing on which they can feed. Even physical conditions are largely determined by mental states, and to this truth the scientific world is rapidly being drawn. The old, materialistic belief that a man is what his body makes him, is rapidly passing away, and is being replaced by the inspiring belief that man is superior to his body. and that his body is what he makes it by the power of thought.”
“Cling to self, and you cling to sorrow, relinquish self, and you enter into peace. To seek selfishly is not only to lose happiness, but even that which we believe to be the source of happiness. See how the glutton is continually looking about for a new delicacy wherewith to stimulate his deadened appetite; and how, bloated, burdened, and diseased, scarcely any food at last is eaten with pleasure.”
“Lose yourself in the welfare of others; forget yourself in all that you do; this is the secret of abounding happiness. Ever be on the watch to guard against selfishness, and learn faithfully the divine lessons of inward sacrifice; so shall you climb the highest heights of happiness, and shall remain in the never clouded sunshine of universal joy, clothed in the shining garment of immortality. Are you searching for the happiness that does not fade away? Are you looking for the joy that lives, and leaves no grievous day? Are you panting for the waterbrooks of Love, and Life, and Peace? Then let all dark desires depart, and selfish seeking cease. Are you ling’ring in the paths of pain, grief-haunted, stricken sore? Are you wand’ring in the ways that wound your weary feet the more? Are you sighing for the Resting-Place where tears and sorrows cease? Then sacrifice your selfish heart and find the Heart of Peace.”
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Vex King’s Good Vibes Good Life
Vex King has written an excellent book titled Good Vibes Good Life. How can you learn to truly love yourself? How can you transform negative emotions into positive ones? Is it possible to find lasting happiness? In this book, Instagram guru Vex King answers all of these questions and more. Vex overcame adversity to become a source of hope for thousands of young people, and now draws from his personal experience and his intuitive wisdom to inspire you to – practice self-care, overcome toxic energy and prioritize your wellbeing – cultivate positive lifestyle habits, including mindfulness and meditation – change your beliefs to invite great opportunities into your life – manifest your goals using tried-and-tested techniques – overcome fear and flow with the Universe – find your higher purpose and become a shining light for others.
“The premise of the Law of Attraction is that what you think you bring about. In other words, we can attract the things we war- in our lives by committing our thoughts to them. This applies to the things you don’t want, as well as to the things you do want; quite simply, whatever you focus on will be returned to you. So, the Law of Attraction stresses the importance of thinking about what you want, rather than focusing on things you fear or dread.”
“Beyond the Law of Attraction is the Law of Vibration. It’s the key component to a greater life. Once you learn and apply the ideas around this law, your life will transform. This isn’t to say that you’ll avoid all difficulties. What you will do, though, is find a way to take control and create a life that feels just as good as it looks.”
“Unfortunately, many of us identify ourselves with a certain image throughout our lives that’s created by our ego, and we have to Keep on maintaining and protecting it. If others don’t approve of the image of ourselves that we’ve created, our identity becomes threatened and the ego will fear for its protection, just as in the case here. My beliefs forced that person to question his own beliefs and therefore question his identity, which imposed a threat. This is why he was so quick to get defensive and to attack.”
“Sometimes, we have more superficial friendships than meaningful ones. Consider whether your friends show you support. Do they applaud when you win? Do they encourage you to take positive actions? Do they help you grow as a person? If you’re unsure, your friendships may not be as healthy for you as you think they are. If you suspect jealousy or hatred directed at you within your friendship circle, you’re not surrounding yourself with the right people. True friends want the best for you. Your success is shared with them. They don’t become bitter when you get better; they help you get better and ensure you don’t become bitter!”
“This isn’t about what other people are doing or sharing online. It’s not about what they’re up to in life or how far they’ve gone. It’s about you. Your competition is you. Outdoing yourself is your daily task, and that’s where your comparison should be directed: on the person you were yesterday. If you want to be the greatest version of yourself, you have to keep the focus on your own life and goals. ”
“Affirmations should be in your own words. Say them in your voices as if you’re telling facts to a friend. Only repeat positive statements – don’t recite what you don’t want. What we resist often persists. because the energy we exude in avoiding it is also returned to us. So, for example, you might say, ‘I have great confidence in everything I do,’ rather than, ‘I am not nervous anymore.’ And affirmations should be spoken in the present tense.”
“When we experience low points on our journey towards change, life can feel confusing and challenging. It’s extremely difficult to trust the process and to have faith that good things will follow. But we need to remember that, using the lessons we learn along the way, we can make better choices going forward. If you’ve had your heart broken before, you might decide to pay more attention when picking a partner. This might lead you down the path to finding your soulmate – someone who treats you much better than anyone ever has before.”
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Eckhart Tolle’s The Power Of Now
Eckhard Tolle has written an amazing book titled ‘The Power Of Now. This is a must read for anyone looking for a modern take on spirituality – an essential reading for anyone who might be feeling weighed down by the past or fearful of the future. To make the journey into The Power of Now we will need to leave our analytical mind and its false created self, the ego, behind. Although the journey is challenging, Eckhart Tolle offers simple language and a question and answer format to show us how to silence our thoughts and create a liberated life. Surrender to the present moment, where problems do not exist. It is here we find our joy, are able to embrace our true selves and discover that we are already complete and perfect. If we are able to be fully present and take each step in the Now we will be opening ourselves to the transforming experience of The Power of Now.
“Just because you can solve a crossword puzzle or build an atom bomb doesn’t
mean that you use your mind. Just as dogs love to chew bones, the mind loves to get
its teeth into problems. That’s why it does crossword puzzles and builds atom bombs.
You have no interest in either. Let me ask you this: can you be free of your mind
whenever you want to? Have you found the “off” button?”
“All cravings are the mind seeking salvation or fulfillment in external things and in the future as a substitute for the joy of Being. As long as I am my mind, I am those cravings, those needs, wants, attachments, and aversions, and apart from them there is no “I” except as a mere possibility, an unfulfilled potential, a seed that has not yet sprouted.”
“To be identified with your mind is to be trapped in time: the compulsion to live almost exclusively through memory and anticipation. This creates an endless preoccupation with past and future and an unwillingness to honor and acknowledge the present moment and allow it to be. The compulsion arises because the past gives you an identity and the future holds the promise of salvation, of fulfillment in whatever form. Both are illusions.”
“Usually, the future is a replica of the past. Superficial changes are possible, but real transformation is rare and depends upon whether you can become present enough to dissolve the past by accessing the power of the Now.”
“Are you stressed? Are you so busy getting to the future that the present is reduced to a means of getting there? Stress is caused by being ‘here’ but wanting to be ‘there,’ or being in the present but wanting to be in the future. It’s a split that tears you apart inside. To create and live with such an inner split is insane. The fact that everyone else is doing it doesn’t make it any less insane. If you have to, you can move fast, work fast, or even run, without projecting yourself into the future and without resisting the present.”
“It is not what you think it is! You can’t think about presence, and the mind can’t understand it. Understanding presence is being present. Try a little experiment. Close your eyes and say to yourself: “I wonder what my next thought is going to be.” Then become very alert and wait for the next thought. Be like a cat watching a mouse hole. What thought is going to come out of the mouse hole? Try it now.
“If at any time you are finding it hard to get in touch with the inner body, it is usually easier to focus on your breathing first. Conscious breathing, which is a powerful meditation in its own right, will gradually put you in touch with the body.”
“When you surrender to what is and so become fully present, the past ceases to have any power. You do not need it anymore. Presence is the key. The Now is the key.”
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